Saturday Happenings-What's Up?

Good Morning OFF Family,
Well, another sleepless night in store for me.  I'm a little tired, so I might doze off at some point.  Once I finally fall asleep, it is solid, but I wake up early to go potty and am wide awake, only after four or five hours of sleep.

I'm hoping to get some bloodwork done this morning.  Then, I have to go to Rite Aid, to exchange a pair of sandals I bought Mom that were the wrong size.  

Speaking of Mom, she was here tonight, and we talked for a long time.  Her thinking is really twisted, and I make the mistake of engaging her.  Her memory of certain things that happened when I was growing up is horrible.  When discussing my childhood fears that I brought into my adult life, she minimizes it, comparing my mental health issues with my brother's.  She also compares my childhood traumas to her childhood's, and tells me I didn't have it so bad compared to her.  I have Bipolar Disorder, just like she does.  She uses her mental illness as an excuse for things that happened to me as a kid.  I'm supposed to be perfect in every interaction with her.  Then, she came to the realization that I am just like her Mother, who was a very sick woman, back when seeing psychiatrists was not the thing to do.  When she left, she kept calling me "Mom."  When I told her I don't like that, she said she'd do what she wants to do.  She has no respect for me, yet demands it from everyone.  God, I pray I never treat my kids that way.

Well, I better shut down this thing and try to get some sleep.

Hugs,
Trish

Morning Trish and OFF family to come yet today...

(((Trish))) how sad that your mom treats you like that!!! WOW!!!

Well we are STILL waiting to hear from that woman that is called Rick's mom. She is supposed to be bringing Rick's daughter, grandson and brother tomorrow for a cookout here. PROMISED to call him last night but so far nothing. He tried calling her SEVERAL times but she would NOT answer her phone!!! We have alot to do today so just to be safe we went out and bought food for this cookout last night. He said if she doesn't show up there WILL be hell to pay!!!!!!!!!! I told him if she pulls another no show I will call her and tell her exactly what I think of her and her BS!!!!!!!!!! I am sick of her ****!!!!!

Anyhow, I had a call from my oldest son David and he and his girlfriend Renee are supposed to be coming today for the weekend. So looking forward to this visit also!!! Now the weather is hot hot hot and the threat of nasty storms some strong to severe between here and Michigan so not sure if they will still make the tri*****t. Waiting on his call now. Knowing my son he will drive through it to come here. So need to do laundry so there is clean bedding and towels for them. Dishes need to get done also and the floors swept. :-)

So best get off the pc and get busy before it gets to hot to do anything like work...lol If I am not back online before the holiday hope you all have a good one and remember to THANK EACH AND EVERY VETERAN past present and future!!! GOD Bless America!!!!!!

Thoughts and Prayers for all that need them!!

HUGS

I made it to Colorado in record time! It took me 3days and 2 nights. Usually takes four days and three nights. The bad thing my airconditioner went out in my car in Georgia so traveling was not fun.
I am taking my car in to get fixed on Tuesday. I am hoping it will be fixed under the warrenty. My car is only 18 months old.
Hope everyine is doing fine! I need to go get some groceries before it gets to hot!
Carla

Good mornin' ya'll.
Trish, my heart breaks for you. I sooooo, hope you are feeling way better way soon! What is it about older folks that think they can treat others any way they want? We know they were raised to respect others! And they have very selective memories. My Grandfather was an alcoholic and beat Gramma and the kids growing up. They never had money for anything. But when Mom would bring this kind of thing to Gramma it was as if none of that ever happened!!
OMG, my daughters future ex just kept calling and texting her all day. They met at the phone place to change grandson's phone to the plan they set up for his Dad. So if this divorce ever gets finished the guys will be separate from her and the granddaughter. When they are in public he tries 'touching' her. Holding her hand, putting his arm around her. She starts off very nicely asking him to stop. But he won't, so she has to be 'firm'. That happened at the phone store. As soon as she signed what she needed to do she came home. Fridays are busy days for her work-wise. All the stores email their weekly reports and other stuff. Anyway, when she got back she had 96 emails to deal with. Her son comes over and starts yelling at her. All the stuff his Dad has been putting in his head, bringing up everything he has felt slighted on, saying even as a baby he was unhappy, yada, yada, yada! She let him yell. Very calmly addressed all his rants. Ending with telling him she loved him, he was welcome here anytime, but from now on he would treat her with respect or leave. He stormed out! All afternoon his Dad texted and called to discuss their son. He also yelling. She is so calm I am so proud of her. She told him he shouldn't be discussing anything about the divorce with the kids other than to reassure them they are loved and none of this is their fault. I could write a book, but suffice it to say he will NOT leave her alone!! She can't turn her phone off cause it is a work phone. He hates to be ignored!! One text said he was coming over so they could talk in person. She told him if he did she would call the cops!! He STILL insists she will come to her senses and come back to him to save the family!!
Tomorrow we are going over to get (hopefully) the rest of her clothes, etc. it should be interesting!
Anyway....she takes the Lotus to Seattle today for that dealer to sell it to one of the many clients he says he has interested in it. She wants $29,000, the dealer can keep anything over that! I am taking the granddaughter and her boyfriend to the mall. Yippee!! I really kind of enjoy it. They have big cushy chairs in the food court overlooking the first floor. I get a drink and my iPad, sit there and read and people watch. Every so often she comes back to check in and then they are off again. Very relaxing!
Judy, I hope Rick's Mom shows. If not at least you will have lots of food to feed your son and his family.
Everyone is coming here Monday for grilling and eating. I mentioned that this place is so tiny and their's is huge. BUT, this place has a pool, hot tub, game room, etc. So, Gramma will be making sides and desserts and the guys will be grillin'. Another relaxing fun time.
Everyone have a fantabulous day!

Trish and all Of OFF,
    Trish: so sorry your Mom doesn't treat you better. How hard that must be on you.

     Today is a better day. The front section of the house is so much better after yesterday's cleaning session. Still need to dust and sweep. Also the hall bathroom. Sorry for my venting yesterday. Having company tomorrow so glad I am on top of things. Was so tired yesterday I went to bed early and feel much better today.

    Have a wonderful weekend,   Mag  

WOOOOOOOOOHOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!!! My son and his girlfriend are on their way to see us!!!!!!!!! They should be here about 3PM!!!! I am so excited!!! We are STILL waiting to hear from Rick's mother. Like that will happen...sighs. I do not know what else I can do but keep my mouth shut til after Sunday and then give her a call and IF she answers her phone blast her a good one!!!!!!!! Like I said I am so sick of her hurting her son that did everything for her when he lived close by and now she treats him like crap!! Well she treated him like that even when he lived with her...sighs.

OK need to get back to getting things ready for my son....:-)

HUGS

Good morning Trish and everyone.....

Trish...I feel so bad for the way your mom treats you. It breaks my heart. She needs help but I doubt she will ever get it. She won't face her issues. She can't heal that way. More prayers for you EVERYDAY!!!

Carolyn....still praying for your daughter and grandchildren. What a mess. That guy needs help. I hope she is documenting all those calls. She may need to get a restraining order. It sounds like she is handling things very well considering the cir****tances.

Judy....I am so happy to hear your son and his GF are coming to visit. That is just wonderful!!  As for Rick's  mom.....I am almost speechless....what a witch!!

Mag....keep on working at the house....you will get it back to the way you like it pretty soon. Sad that your sister won't help...that is so wrong. Oh well.....

I am in more pain today after all that driving around to cemeteries, getting in and out of the car, bending over doing  planters and such. It is another cold and rainy day. That doesn't help much either. I am going to do a couple loads of laundry and then relax with a book!

Wishing you all a great day!! Prayers for many in need.

Love and hugs to all....connie d

Trish - I'm sad that you had such a rough time. We may love our relatives but not always Like them!!

I bought myself a handy dandy little electric grass trimmer. It is perfect for clipping around the rose bushes and trees. The weed eater is too heavy.

Got it all set to go, walked out to the deck and at the bottom step was a blasted SNAKE!!!!!!!! Did you hear me scream?

Phooey - that's the end of my yard work for this year.

Hello everyone!

Benny Boy (aka, the MONSTER) is down for his nap--thank goodness!  Whew!  That boy sure is living up to the rep of the terrible twos! 

I never thought I would say this because I was so excited when we bought this farm and built this big ol' house, but I am SICK of this place!  I am so ready to go back home to Hilltop.  I have cleaned and cleaned and organized and straightened and painted and tended my flower beds and STILL we are not out of here.  I know that Butch is doing the best he can with the outside, but he lost a day and a half with that colon bleeding scare, so we are still here, trying to get everything finished.  He's trying to clean out the tractor shed today.  Tomorrow is the pig barn.  And then MAYBE we can packup and leave on Monday.  Problem is, the longer we stay here the more I have to clean!  LOL!  It's the nature of the beast. 

We had hoped to leave out tomorrow, but now it is looking like it MIGHT be Monday.  Please God.  I am really disappointed, though, because Monday is our 31st anniversary and I did not want to spend it driving 6 hours across Texas with a toddler, you know?  Oh, well, it is what it is.

The Realtor is coming Monday to take pictures for the website and the virtual tour, so I really have to have everything spotless and all the toys and crap hidden from sight.  (I hope we are just packing it all away in the car at that point so we can get out of here.)  Anyway, as soon as we are on the web, I'll post the link so you all can see the virtual tour if you're interested. 

I did want to tell about a NSV I had at the hospital yesterday morning.  Turns out the surgical nurse for Butch was the same OB/GYN nurse I had way back 30 years ago when I was pregnant with Carrie.  Took us a moment to recognize each other, and then she said, "OMG!  You look exactly the same!!!"  That was a pretty sweet moment to tell a 54 year old that she looks like her 24 year old self!  Tee hee!

However, I won't look that way long if I don't stop all this stress eating.  Oh, it's just gotten so awful.  I'm back to just grazing on carbs all day long.  I'm trying to stop it, but I'm so stressed by everything right now, I just can't seem to summon the mental fortitude to take myself in hand again.  I am upset with myself for reverting back to bad habits.  I guess it's going to be a life long battle for me.  It's been all I can do not to break down and drink a Coke today.  Coke is like alcohol to me.  I crave it all the time, even on days when I'm not stressed.  The thought is always there.

Dammit.

Well, I'd better kick myself off of here and get some things done while Benny Boy is napping.  Trish, I'm sorry about your mom.  You're right--it's a mistake to engage her.  Try not to let yourself go down that road again.  It only hurts you more in the end.  Carolyn, I am forever speechless at the debacle that is your daughter's divorce.  Holy Crap.  Never been through anything like that personally, so I don't have any advice, but this is a fairly safe and secure place for you to vent, and we all love you.  Just let it all out here.  You have to have a safety valve.  Judy, so happy that your son and GF are coming to see you today.  I would just refuse to acknowledge Rick's mom ever again.  Just treat her as a persona non grata (a nonexistant person) and ignore her.  For some people, even negative attention is gratifying and makes them feel important.  I wouldn't give her the satisfaction of knowing she matters one way or the other.   

Sweet Mag, I wish you would come back to Austin and we could hang out for a day together again!  Any plans along that line?  Connie, I am sorry you are in so much pain these days.  Eileen, too.  That fibro must be awful stuff.

I think there was more I wanted to say, but I'm old and CRS!  Love you all!

 

Getting over my jetlag, and the expected new cleaning lady has bailed out as her husband has found a job in another city  as of next month ...she was due to start here Tuesday ( she hasnt told me yet or returned my key, the friend *****commended her emailed me today...) So I will be saving some money by doing the cleaning myself.......Was expecting to pay her from my freelance work in retirement, but that too is not looking brilliant right now, so just as happy she can't come.

Fibro killing me as I seem to have relaxed and embraced my Queen soft bed at home after 3 weeks in so, of France, and wonder why single beds in France are only 90 cms wide and hard as rock..Glad to be home and finally started my laundry from my vacation..